Hi guys! I asked a friend of mine to do a guest post for me just because she is cool like that! I met her on the M.E.N.D. (she will explain what it is). I have felt VERY loved in the group.
I hope that sharing this will help those out there that hurt like we do!
I hope that sharing this will help those out there that hurt like we do!
When you are done reading this go check her website out www.thehoytfamily.blogspot.com
Hey Ya’ll. I’m Amanda…nice to meet you _
I met Michelle through a local organization called M.E.N.D. which stands for “mommies enduring neonatal death”. The group provides support to families who have lost babies through miscarriage, stillbirth and/or infant loss, of which, are staggering in numbers.
The ladies I’ve “met” (online) and those who I have had the honor to meet in person, have been nothing short of a blessing to me in my life as I walk this “new normal” life.
Having people around you that really know what you are going through is seriously, a Godsend. You inevitably feel alone when you lose a child. You feel isolated. There is no getting around the fact that there are still taboos in discussing miscarriage, stillbirth and infant loss. Luckily, organizations like M.E.N.D., Faces of Loss and events like August 19 and October 15 exist so that we feel less alone in our grief.
Once you lose a baby, no matter the child’s age, your life is turned upside down and you are a changed person. Never again will you be innocent and oblivious to things around you. Never again will you feel safe in your skin. Every image or memory of your child who has gone before you, breaks your heart all over again.
We carry on with our daily lives, love our husbands, love our children who are still with us, go to work, go to church, go to parties, etc., but below the exterior of what is “us” is a deep pain that will always be within us.
Upon reading Michelle’s story as she posted on the M.E.N.D. group FaceBook page, and knowing that she lost a baby very early on in her pregnancy after battles with infertility, I knew we had a connection.
The funny thing is, is that Michelle lives about 841 miles away and was directed to M.E.N.D. by a friend. Our paths have crossed and now we are friends for life.
TO BE CONTINUED tomorrow…
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